Happiness and me

Its been some time since the last one…….. a phase comes over and goes by. So those twitter blogs have taken a back seat. but this one has been at the back of my head for quite long – it cannot just vanish away it needs a place to stay. I think this is the place other than my own self.

We are selfish and crazy about a lot things around us but we just take it down when it comes to preserving happiness.We take it for granted. Bowing to pressure. Sometimes for friends sometimes for family and sometimes for no reason. All in all the joy takes a beating. If I decide that I will be happy at my own terms not dictated by others the turnout of things becomes quite irrelevant.
Being selfish and possessive about happiness is a nice line to follow for me. I believe the more time you stay in this world the bigger dump of unnecessary knowledge you get. Whether the certain someone had a loss or gain is really of no importance to me. But people no matter how i tell them will tell me this. especially when it comes to our near ones why do we expect them to behave as we want. Why do we make our happiness dependent. Sometimes I look at myself & I think I care about many pity things and I am so possessive about them. But when it comes to being happy I become unresponsive to the fact that my joy is not dependent.

The more numbers I have added to my age the bigger a fool I have become. The more I downplay others. larger the list of people I hate has grown. And no nothing is for free. It always costs. And this costs the most invaluable thing my happiness.There has to be a limit to the adjustability quotient. Why shud i adjust to some1 I don’t like when there is an option to ignore them. First I dont adjust and then crib about them. What sort of logic is that ?

There’s a simple remedy be selfish about ur happinness than anything else. Whatever I do there has to be a question – Am i being selfish about my happiness ? By happiness I mean only happiness nothing else. But there is a thought can bug you – what if the happiness comes at the cost of others. By logic this should answer itself. But still I thought of this explanation. If its coming at the cost of others it’s not independent. If I am selfish about my happiness I will not make it dependent on others. Its not that I am the most generous person in this world. However there has to be a logic to justify whatever we try to present. Any happiness which involves a second person’s pain doesn’t fit into my ideology.

There’s another detail which sort of justifies itself. What abt situations in which I adjust to others so that they can be happy. But its important to understand that this scenario is different from the adjustability quotient I mentioned. A straight question – Did that smile on someone else’s face coz of me – made me sad or happy ? I think almost all times the answer would be easy to get. The thin line to be followed is just to keep joy independent from who can destroy it.. I guess that’s enough to justify all that..

I will try to add something more to this… but not sure.. bbye

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